I'm very ugly
So don't try to convince me that
I am a very beautiful person
Because at the end of the day
I hate myself in every single way
And I'm not going to lie to myself by saying
There is beauty inside of me that matters
So rest assured I will remind myself
That I am a worthless, terrible person
And nothing you say will make me believe
I still deserve love
Because no matter what
I am not good enough to be loved
And I am in no position to believe that
Beauty does exist within me
Because whenever I look in the mirror
I always think am I as ugly as people say?
- Abdullah Shoaib
Now, read the poem from the bottom up
“It's been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.”
― Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne of Green Gable
What are the keys to happiness, health, and longevity?
The Harvard Study of Adult Development has been a rich and interesting source of information concerning happiness and health. This study originally started tracking the health of 268 Harvard sophomore men in 1938 and has been ongoing ever since! In 1938 Harvard was an all-male institution so there were no females originally included in the study. Of the original 268 men, at the time of THIS article in 2017, 19 were still alive in their 90’s. In the 1970’s 456 Boston inner-city residents were enlisted as part of the Study.
Turns out that close relationships, not money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives. Close relationships help to delay mental and physical decline and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes. That finding proved true across the board among both the Harvard men and the inner-city participants.
Researchers found that people’s level of satisfaction with their relationships with family, friends, and community at age 50 was a better predictor of physical health than their cholesterol levels were. Loneliness was found to be as detrimental to one’s health as smoking and alcoholism!
HERE is a Ted Talk from the current director of the research program.
Dr Jim McDaniel